Love.. one of the big questions in life.. what is it?
It’s been floating around in my mind for some time and I thought it was time I got it out, just to de-fog my mind.
I guess by now, we’ve all made perceptions about it. For example, for my room-mate, it is something divine, beyond normal words like “care”, “like” and it’s a big motivator in life.
I think most of my friends don’t even think about it.. it just is.. but I’ve got this curse or blessing that my mind loves overworking and I can’t control it.
So, let me put it all in my words. I first started to think about love when I had my first crush. My first definition was “Nature’s trick to get us to mate” and my explanation for that feeling was that I was crazy and filmy.
And maybe my filminess was very adamant, cuz it happened again. Needless to say, it was a crush, and I figured that I was just attracted to her.. Love still had the same definition for me.
But with time I’ve grown up, and I like to think that I’ve matured too [:)]
And now, I think that love is nothing other than unconditional care. I mean there are various points supporting my theory. Parents care for us no matter what we become. Anyone else doesn’t… they love and expect, so maybe not unconditional love.. but in that league. And it happens when we get used to people.. I mean we get attached to them, their nuances, their vices and their good habits. Everything else is just our need for social attachment or attraction, based on the kind of love. So, I could fall in love with any girl as long as I stay with her for a long time/some time. I figured that’s how arranged marriages work.
So.. a good definition right?
I thought so too.. until I got intrigued by another girl. I can’t say it was attraction cuz I’ve never thought about any of the girls mentioned above like that. I was always just intrigued.. wanting to know more about them. I could say that I was trying to fill mental holes.. but I wasn’t looking for anything like that.. at least not this year… it just happened.
I’m not saying this is love. I’m just trying to figure life out. Cuz that’s what humans try to do, isn’t it? Finding patterns, setting theories and testing them to confirm. We like to believe that there are some ground rules and we can learn them and live life easily.. but I guess life surprises you like this…
Tell me if you’ve got something to contribute
4 thoughts on “Love… and all that jazz”
You could well be right about the unconditional care aspect.
I know my husband and I care unconditionally for each other – that is a good description I hadn’t thought of before.
I feel that love is very unconditional, strong and certain
I think its “deep understanding”. Unconditional, not always.
But what about a psychologist or psychiatrist.. they may deeply understand their patients rt? know what they think, when they think it and how they’ll react.. doesn’t necessarily mean they love or even care for them